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When you tell people that you don’t like going out-out, which reaction are you met with? Is it one of surprise? Confusion? Annoyance?
I’m 24 and I consciously decided a long time ago – when I stopped working in London! – that, hey, I don’t even like going out, so I wouldn’t be doing that on the regular anymore. From my travel anxiety to my introvert nature, the fact that I’m a sleepy drunk to the whole shouting at each other in a bar thing, it’s just not me. And having moved to a wildly alive city, going out for a drink is top of the list for almost every person I’ve met.

When you tell people that you don’t like going out-out, which reaction are you met with? Is it one of surprise? Confusion? Annoyance?

“But what do you do then?”

I am usually met with a notion of confusion and surprise. Sometimes annoyance too. While some people are born with a flair for talking to strangers, I’m more suited to a few hours alone with a notebook, pen and a blank space page. Once upon a time when I was a young sprite, I loved nothing more than the thrill of shopping for a night out with the girls, getting ready together, playing drinking games and heading out. I loved the getting ready process and just having fun – honestly we’d spend more time playing mini challenges sans drinks at a table/booth than dancing and the like!

When I tell people that I probably won’t join them for an all-night bar and nightclub hop, it usually boils down to: “what do you do with all your time?” I think we’re all fairly similar here in Blogland, right? We blog in our true downtime, we’re passionate about very specific things, we research our passions – all those hauls, justified! – and I, for one, am passionate about choosing happy.

My happy? I love my Wednesday evenings spent at home reading up on a new subject each week (I selected black pearls this week), I enjoy nothing more than a pack of matcha choc chip cookies eaten while watching anime, drama nights are coupled with Pinning and Tumblring inspiration, I like to plan day trips around Hong Kong. I like attending sample sales and going to brunch. I like practising yoga. I really like reading blogs and writing comments to other bloggers. I like looking at flowers. I like seascapes.

It’s taken me a while to almost accept that not going out-out isn’t bad at all. Should I force myself to go for drinks when I could easily opt for brunch with them instead? I certainly know that going for a drink with a new date probably already means we’re not that similar. Not going out-out is the new black.

… Man I can’t wait for season 3 of OITNB.

28 comments

  1. Good for you, it sounds like you've found your happy! I'm not a big drinker nor do I regularly go out but I do like to now and then. xx

    Ioanna | Hearting.co.uk

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  2. Going out is not for everyone, I am gland i'm not the only who feels this way.

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  3. Thanks Ioanna! I mean, I enjoy a drink on the odd occasion and I can hold my drink, but being out with so many people just sets me on edge!

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  4. Definitely! There's such a stigma amongst us lot in this crowd that you must like going out and being crazy extroverted all the time.

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  5. I almost liked it at Uni but even after my first year I just liked hanging out at home blogging and such. YES TO OITNB. I may indulge in a rewatch because it feels likes it's been ages since the last season.

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  6. I'm exactly the same! I'm a mega-introvert & really have to be in a certain mood to have any form of social interaction, let alone a whole night of loud noises and bustling drunk crowds haha. I much prefer sitting at home with my partner & my dog, watching Netflix or writing my blog.

    I'm only 20, and my lack of enthusiasm for going out-out every weekend is one of the reasons why I didn't enjoy uni and quit after 6 months (http://thecornishlife.co.uk/why-i-quit-university/). When I tell my friends that I'd rather have a chilled night in with some wine and I film they understand, but I can tell they're sort of like 'Oh okay' in their heads.



    This is why it's so good to make friends in blogland! Most of us are introverted young women with so much in common :) x

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  7. I can completely relate. I prefer going out to friend's houses, having a meal in and just catching up in a chilled environment. I love nothing more than organising a day trip, or short get aways, brunch, shopping (of course), any kind of dinner plans and they rarely end up at a bar etc. I'm not a massive drinker (1 or 2 and then I'm on the soft drink as I get super sleepy too)and I'm always excited for that cup of hot tea when I get in! Haha. I'm such an old lady.

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  8. Haha gosh going out-out is such a thing that I keep forgetting that nights out are almost always let downs. I feel like it's something I *should* enjoy but I never really do!

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  9. You've nailed it, Michelle. I am not a fan of going out-out, it happens once in a blue moon and whilst I do sometimes have rare moments of happiness (usually when I'm belting out S Club 7 on the dancefloor with my bestie) on the whole I don't find it an enjoyable experience. It's just not something I find fun as a bit of an introvert! Dinner and cocktails with friends? Yes. Night in with a takeaway and a glass of wine? Yes. Stumbling around in a dark, sweaty room unable to hold any sort of actual conversation with people? Ehhh... no thanks. x

    Charlotte / Colours & Carousels

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  10. Erm, yes! I think those people who aren't able to stand a few hours in their own (or friends') company without getting drunk is pretty sad! I love nothing more than putting on a comfy pair of PJs and snuggling up to watch a good film or a few episodes of my fave TV shows :D

    Zoe xoxo

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  11. You're on a roll with you're blog posts at the moment miss! You've definitely managed to voice my exact thoughts on going out right here. I've always been a bit of a homebody ever since I was a teenager, that didn't really change that much when I turned 18 and throughout Uni. Sure a nice night out is good once in a while but I'd rather throw on my PJs and stick on Netflix to be honest. And besides I'm definitely more of a day trip/brunch type person anyway ;) Xx

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  12. I am 100% introvert. I've always preferred to avoid the crowds and huge events (choosing instead to stay home, read, write, paint, etc). When I was younger, it was considered weird by my peers. However, as we all get older, I find more of them wanting to enjoy the comfort of their own homes as well. So now I say, "Welcome to my world! Isn't it fun?" :) Happy Tuesday
    http://www.lovecompassionatelee.com/thinkoutloud/2015/5/24/52415

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  13. I like going out but only usually during the daytime to quiet chill places like coffee shops! Because once it gets dark, I like to feel cosy, showered and curled up somewhere! Sitting in a noisy bar isn't fun for me as much.

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  14. I just discovered your blog and was really intrigued by this post. I've recently been coming to terms with the fact that I just don't like going out and it's been a little difficult for me to accept about myself. I would much rather spend time one on one with a friend going on a jog/hike, grabbing coffee or checking out a local farmer's market. Ocassionaly I enjoy going out but certainly not every weekend...the idea of going out weekly really stresses me out. I hate that people make those of us who dislike going out like such freaks! Haha well I guess maybe we are (;

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  15. ohmygosh!! I can totally relate with you! I'm always that person sitting there munching on some chips at a party. Don't mean to be a party pooper, but I'd seriously rather be home blogging, watching some dramas, or just having a chill chat with a friend. I don't mind being around others and having fun with them, but I'd still like some alone time. The introvert part of me, I guess?


    Connie from theconbonz

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  16. I don't like going out-out either. I think my natural habitat is on the sofa at home under a blanket with a good book/blogging sesh, and snacks. Gotta have the snacks ;) xx

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  17. I also have terrible night vision which never helps ;) Ah I'll have a little read of your post now!

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  18. Definitely! Man I miss brunch and shopping days with you ladies.

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  19. I won't lie, the concept of going out-out seems fun for a fleeting moment but it all comes crashing down once I'm actually out-out haha.

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  20. Yes to a good cheesy pop night ;) I often do that at home on my own though too, I won't lie!

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  21. PS. Team anti-sweaty-dark-rooms ;)

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  22. Definitely! There's still a little stigma around actually being able to enjoy your own company which is crazy.

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  23. Too kind my love! <3 ps. Brunch when I'm back on home turf!

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  24. Haha I love it! Happy Thursday - super behind on replies AH!

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  25. Yes to coffee shop days. It's kinda difficult to find a legit quiet place in Hong Kong so when I do find them, I always head back.

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  26. Thanks for stopping by Jordyn! I think it's something that's fairly taboo to an extent. You always see snaps of 'crazy nights out' on Facebook and Instagram but rarely are simple, at-home snaps appreciated outside of the blogging community, eh? Even reading through the comments on this post, it's easy to see that we're not too different (:

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  27. Oh my gosh yes to being the party chips stealer. I actually spent my sister's 18th party eating chips and dip for like a solid hour. Wish I was kidding but I'm not hahaha. I like a balance of both - alone time helps me to recharge but of course I love spending time with my friends (:

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  28. All the essentials for a good night! I discovered the best M&S chunky choc chip cookies this past Bank Holiday weekend - almost feel like those deserve a post of their own...

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