Number one on the list of Mish’s FAQ’s is always, ‘aren’t you lonely?’, which seems a little rude but it’s kinda expected given my hermit status and all. I thought I’d touch upon this taboo subject because while I find it a pretty standard concept, it’s probably fairly easy to feel isolated in a world that is moving faster than most people can keep up with.
Firstly, a note because I realise you probably don’t even know me (or maybe you hide out on my Twitter which basically means you can see inside my head). I’m very much an introvert, independent to a fault and I quite often experience social anxiety. My friends all come from different pools of friends. I live alone in a country hundreds of miles away from where my family live and I’m single – again.
There’s a common misconception that you have to be settled, with 2.5 children and 1.5 dogs, surrounded by friends who are equally as successful as you ‘should’ be and who you regularly go out for ‘dinner and drinks’ with. That’s apparently what twenty-somethings do.
But there’s also something to be said about being a twenty-something and being okay with on-your-own-ness. Because if you can’t rely on yourself, who can you rely on? (Aside from Dad, because he is a trooper for all those times he waited for me at 2am outside bars and clubs. Chinese Dad times.) I would say I spend about 40% of my time alone nowadays. I like to use my alone time to improve skills, like cooking – surprisingly gratifying once you get the hang of a recipe and it tastes good, not just edible – video editing, yoga which is my new love, have a thoughtful shop, etc. It’s perfectly fine to do these things on your own.
You’re not alone if you’re working towards something and especially in the modern-age with social media and all. I often have a little scroll through Twitter to feel like I’m surrounded by friends – sorry, cheesy – and there will always be a way of being around people. By and large, I’m alone but loneliness isn’t directly connected to that.
On another similar note, I actually I touched on my whole ‘bridal party worry’ thing the other week on here. But seriously though, how does one have a bridal party when her best friends are all separate best friends who don’t know each other?
And on a sidenote: I'm so sorry for being MIA on here. My MacBook is currently being a diva and not connecting to WiFi and so I have about 14 blog posts and 2 videos ready and waiting, but no means to share them! Get ready for chatter, a Project Life scrapbook update, my fitness routine update, the return of an old blog series and more! (All about the Blogger phone app posting... not.)