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On being in my twenties and sort of just floating on by.
When I was younger*, I envisioned my twenties as a glittering place of having my own house, a puppy that would never get big or lose its’ fluffiness, long side-swept hair and a Louis Vuitton Speedy 30. Simple.

Well now I am 23 and let me see: I live in my Granny’s apartment – in Hong Kong. I’m the proud mama of two Russian tortoises. I have a blunt, sort of mid-length, nondescript hairstyle that looks bland but means I no longer need to brush my hair when I’m running out of the front door. And I own too many luxury bags to count; none of which are Vuitton. Cue yet another quarter-life crisis.

I read something on Instagram earlier (I wish that I could replace that with something plenty more inspirational, but that’s the way the cookie crumbles sometimes) that made me stop and realise that it’s okay to be a little lost right now. God, wouldn’t life be so boring – yet ultimately much more simple, I know, I know – if we always knew what we wanted, how to get it and were always on track?

‘Nothing will ruin your 20s more than thinking you should already have your life together.’

The truth is you’re completely allowed to sometimes dread waking up on a Monday morning, finally prise yourself from the sheets, realise there’s no milk for tea or Coco Pops and wonder what the hell you’re doing anymore.

Your twenties are that glorious period where you’re finding your feet in the Real World yet there’s no obligation to have anything together. You’re probably saving slowly for some form of home to stay in later in life. You’re probably debating whether you need lunch or whether you could push it and make it brunch, thus leaving $ for a Monday-night wine. You’re probably counting down the minutes until you’re home for work and get can that bra off, hair up, pyjamas on and slob out with reruns of Run’s House. Hey, me too!

A certain type of beauty exists in this decade of your life: whether you’re trucking through them now, or you can look back and reminisce, or whether you’re desperately holding on to your teen years. I came to realise as I was packing up my worldly possessions (read: 12 pairs of shoes and a Pokeball ornament) that two decades is far too early to have your life together. For me, my twenties have been a time of exploring, learning myself instead of academia, and of making a new handful of haphazard mistakes every day. Seriously though, nothing will ruin your day more than accidentally putting rice milk in your tea. Except maybe the decision to slip putting flats in your bag when your commute was doubled in time due to Occupy Central-induced traffic.

I guess what I’m trying to get at here is just to take a little time with you all to remember that you can take it a little easier. Don’t let the pressure get to you, don’t sweat the small stuff. All the hippie-Mish vibes.

Life? Having it together? Now? You can have that back thanks.

* Insert: “Like, 12.”

19 comments

  1. Exactly what I needed to read! Hope HK is treating you well!

    http://www.iwantyoutoknow.co.uk/

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  2. One of the most reassuring things i'm becoming to realise in my 20's is that no one really knows what the hell they're doing half the time (even if they look like they do). People I've aspired to be like have shown snippets of insecurity and doubt on their path,and it's completely okay! Saying that, i do still have to remind myself this in times of complete despair and mid-meltdown!

    Lizzy from Nomad Notebook

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  3. I am so glad I found this post, it is very reassuring to hear. I just wish I could enjoy my 20s more rather than always worrying!

    Annabel ♥
    Mascara & Maltesers

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  4. Never a truer blog post written Michelle ;) Every time I step back from the stresses of having it all worked out and just accept that I'm damn clueless, I feel so much happier. I don't know where the rumour of being in your 20's and sorted came from, but it's a big fat lie! xx

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  5. Great post, living in Hong Kong sounds pretty glitzy to me!

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  6. I'm glad Kbel! HK is frikken amazing - come and visit soon please! (:

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  7. Absolutely! It's all a charade and a game of imaging ;) I tried so hard to be the 20s girl I imagined myself being but it was bloody hard. I finally feel like I'm at ease with where I'm 'supposed' or 'not supposed' to be.

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  8. Aw thanks Annabel - what a lovely comment! No need to worry about things sweet, it'll always work out in the end: whatever the outcome, that'll just shape your sparkling future!

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  9. Ah thanks Skye! Keepin' it real, none of us know what the hell we're doing eh? It's all a marketing ploy! ;) I'm clueless and pretty proud (but still no Cher Horowitz sadly).

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  10. Thanks Cherry - super lovely to hear from you! HK is quite somethin' - not exactly glitzy but sparkly and beautiful in its' own way (:

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  11. Honestly, I think we'll all still be figuring it out when we're in our 60s! I think when your a kid you have this idea that adults no what is going on. It turns out no one really knows what is going on & thats the beauty of it!

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  12. Exactly what I need to hear when my life is all up in the air right now Michelle - thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on these crazy, unsettled years. Hope you're feeling at home in HK - can't wait to read about how you're coping in the apartment! x

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  13. Hell yeah - those will be the days ;) crazy cat ladies all Instagramming our continuing crises!

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  14. So glad you liked the post Tamsin!

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  15. This was an awesome read! Literally described how I feel right now (especially counting the hours to the end of my night shift so I can take this damn bra off, go into some nice PJs and SLEEP)! Thanks so much for the post and can't wait for more updates on the apartment (I LOVEE EVEE TOO <3)

    Yumoyori <3~

    yumoyori.blogspot.com

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  16. I need to read more of stuff like this, I am 25 and feel like I'm going through a quarter life crisis! Petrified because I don't have my career sorted, a family....so hard to just let things be. Nice to know I'm not the only one that feels like this :-)

    www.justanothernewyearblog.com

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  17. THANK you! What a lovely comment to read. Hope work wasn't too bad - hoping to cobble some more apartment posts together soon, I'm just waiting on a few more pieces before I share it properly!

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  18. It'll all work out Laura! Obvs as long as you're semi-sensible about it ;) if there's one thing I've learnt, it's to not sweat the small stuff and the bigger things will slot into place on their own.

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  19. As a full time mom now - the 20s was a great time of my adulthood. Motherhood has it's joys and frustrations as well but in the 20s it was such a carefree time of my life and it was a time when I got the chance to meet loads of people and not be as guarded as I am now ( being older and supposedly wiser). I was unafraid to try out new things or be challenged to push myself. Now to even try and post my first video clothes haul on youtube was daunting.
    Enjoy it whilst you can ( for sure!) and live with no regrets!
    Simone xoxo ( www.yourstylearchitect.blogspot.com)

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