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On making big decisions and almost putting off dreams.
In a time where time itself is of the essence, we rarely have a moment to truly wind down and relax let alone consider where we're even headed. I've spoken before of feeling like somewhat of a loose cannon despite having what some may say is a charmed life. And of course now I've decided to catapult my entire life to the other side of the world.

I often think that we're raised to believe we should lead a particular lifestyle. Finish school, go to University, get a job, get engaged, be married, settle down in a 4 bedroom detached house with 2.5 kids. I know for a fact that when the opportunity came knocking, I cried on and off for about 9 days, torn between what I wanted to try and all that I knew as being comfortable, an easy life, the norm. But when it came down to writing a 3-page pros and cons list, the excitement and curiosity of uprooting my life outweighed that of living at home with my parents, comfortably getting through with roads, places and faces that I see every single day.

"If not now, then when?" is one of those Tumblr popular phrases. I'm pretty sure I've reblogged it a few times myself. Whilst trying to decide between tiny things like 'at home I can use a washing machine and tumble dryer vs. in Hong Kong I have to hand wash my clothes and visit the launderette' or 'at home tonkotsu ramen costs £13.50 vs. in Hong Kong tonkotsu ramen is roughly £2.80', I realised that if I didn't grab this opportunity now, then when could I ever up sticks and leave? I have no flat/house to pay rent for or worry about, in your mid-20's your friends are already scattered away from home. It felt right.

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I guess I've written this post half to convince myself that this move is still a positive thing but also to reassure anyone in a similar position that big decisions are big for a reason. They have the power to change your life. And if you're not going to change your life now, then when? Don't put off making the first step towards your dream.

29 comments

  1. Such an inspirational post! You're going to have so many wonderful adventures in Hong Kong! x


    A Fashion Tale // UK fashion Blog

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  2. Ahh thanks Amanda! Super excited to blog every single bit! x

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  3. yes. do it and don't look back with any regrets. we learn a lot along the way and that's what counts :)

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  4. Such a lovely sentiment Sharon!

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  5. I think it's really amazing what you're doing. I've been studying abroad here in HK for almost 2 months and it's been incredible! You're definitely making a good decision :)

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  6. Aw thank you Annabelle! Hope you're enjoying yourself - we'll have to set up a dinner or dessert date when I'm there? x

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  7. i do think that at times, we're pressured to follow that lifestyle you've outlined and we're meant to know what we want to do. as were still young, we do have the opportunity to try new things then who knows, it could be the right path. even if you didn't like it as much as you thought, you can always be proud of going out there and trying out a new experience! :)

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  8. People definitely think everyone needs to live their life in a certain and a certain order, which is ridiculous because we are all so different! We all have different stories and different paths. I think it's great that you're taking this opportunity!

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  9. It's odd isn't it? Like since I 'announced' I was moving to Hong Kong, SO many people have been less than supportive and saying things like 'why the hell would you want to do that?' etc. and mentioning that my life is 'good enough already'. We're still so young with so many opportunities ahead of us. Of course I've spent ages thinking this through but I'm excited to be trying it all out.

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  10. It's really odd! I also found this when I was explaining to people that I was a freelancer (before), people just don't understand things that aren't the norm? I'm excited to try this out and have more stories to tell (:

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  11. Definitely agree with this - I always thought my life would be a "certain way" and it hasn't really happened like that but despite maybe not enjoying everything I've done I don't regret saying "yes" to anything - I'd love to live / work abroad and am quite envious of your new adventure! x

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  12. In fact I always wanted my life to be a certain way until I left school and realised there was maybe more to the world than having a job I was 60 odd and just sailing through. I'm getting so excited to go now - although I doooo probably need to buy a suitcase first... xx

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  13. I totally get that 'if not now, when?' sentiment. Especially with something as big as this. You would perhaps always be left wondering 'what if?' if you didn't do it, which I think would be worse!

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  14. This is SUCH an exciting opportunity for you. It will be tough at times but so so worth it!


    Maria xxx

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  15. We're all rooting for you! This is such an incredible opportunity and it's the perfect time for you to go for it! <3 xx

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  16. One thing that won't change is all of us rooting for you! This post also gave me reassurance in my big move too :)

    Lizzy at Nomad Notebook

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  17. I think it about a lot of things recently! Especially as I let someone rule a lot of my decisions for the past 2 years. I always wonder what could have happened or what I'd be like if I hadn't let this someone lurk back into my life hahah.

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  18. Thanks for your positivity and support Maria!

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  19. Aw Lizzy! <3 Best of luck with your move too lovely (:

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  20. Loving this post Michelle. You are so right! Good luck with the move and new job. I'll come and say Hello when I visit Hong Kong :)

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  21. Eeep how exciting to be moving to Hong Kong I can imagine you feel both excited and a little nervous. But yes 'if not now, then when?" we only live once and well taking chances is what makes life exciting. Me and James picked up and moved to Thailand June just gone and well it was scary and I worried and worried about missing home but then I remembered it is one year out of many and well what an experience it will be to tell the children haha. I wish you all the LUCK with moving lovely, and I cannot wait to read and see your blog posts with a Hong Kong in the back ground ;) xxx

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