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That age-old phrase that is uttered in every moment.
Ah that ever-famous phrase. I settled at my desk and propped up my MacBook with all the intention of penning some anecdotes about this phrase but - and I won't lie here - I have all the intention (now) of chickening out. Let's see how it goes...

Human nature causes us to worry, to laugh, to be sad, nervous, scared and more. Sometimes all at the same time. I think we're nearly all in agreement that with the digital age comes a loss of tone and sense of self at times. Why not, aged 13, write confessions on MSN Messenger and pretend it was your friend who wasn't even at your house? Why not tell the bold truth and then say you sent it to the wrong number?

"I'm Asking For A Friend" is more often than not the preferred method of letting yourself down gently - right? Figuratively sharing your own scenario under the guise of any unsuspecting friend. But try to have a little more faith in yourself and confide in confidence. Say for instance*: I have a friend who stumbled into an odd sort of friendship 7 years ago. He was completely outside of her friendship group and we couldn't quite figure it out. They just clicked. They shared all the same interests and she spent all her time with him. But then it shifted and he wanted more. She didn't. And then the tables turned. And now she's stuck between a rock and a hard place: what's the protocol for best friends amped up to more? I'm asking for a friend.

Now it's your turn - tell me about a time that you've used this phrase as your weapon and shield of choice. It can be as small, big, simple or dramatic as you like!

* Insert aforementioned phrase here.

11 comments

  1. Ah there have been so many times that this phrase, or a variation, have appeared in my life... especially back in the good old days of MSN. My favourite anecdote regarding this phrase didn't actually happen to me, but to my boyfriend. He was on holiday a couple of years ago and despite knowing he was allergic to henna (and his whole family knowing too) he went ahead and got himself a superbly classy henna tattoo. Then, when the inevitable reaction happened he got himself on Facebook to chat away with one of his medically trained uncles and used the whole "asking for a friend" line despite EVERYONE knowing that it was about him. He still gets made fun of for it to this day!x

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  2. Oh the dreaded MSN one. Back when I was around 11 or 12 I thought it would be a great idea to type a confession of love (love at age 11) to someone over MSN, then delete it. I didn't delete it, I sent it by mistake. Cue 'oh that wasn't me that was my friend' plus various MSN emoticons. Even re-living it now makes me want to die a little inside. I learnt my lesson from that one.

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  3. "My friends wants to know if you're single" was a classic for me back in the day! Great post, brought back some cringeworthy memories xx

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  4. I think I use it at least once a fortnight! Oh gosh that's horrific - it's such a transparent phrase though right ;)

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  5. Haha MSN memories! I can't remember the number of times I did that... or typing angry messages to people and accidentally pressing enter instead of delete. Those were the days eh?

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  6. That was such a classic! "Are you taking anyone to X's party? I'm asking for a friend." ;) Thanks Lucy, glad you enjoyed reading!

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  7. this is a great read - i've never actually used the phrase, i don't think?! probably just a bit shameless like that ;) i'm sure i've done other round-about ways of asking things though! x

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  8. I think it's pretty normal human nature for us to hide behind anything as a defense mechanism - one of my friends says that it's maybe not such a bad thing ;)


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  9. Thank you Miho! Ah really?! You lucky lucky lady.

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  10. It's so odd (yet amazing) how our body has these mechanisms for emotional distress isn't it? Definitely not a bad thing.

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  11. I can't remember to use that phrase but there are moments when I wished to have a friend close to me.

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