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On a recent crusade of "feeling very sorry for myself", I laid in bed and watched The Hills for nearly an entire two days. Could that have been around the time of my 23rd birthday and, thus, my 3/8th-life crisis? Potentially.

But I watched Lauren and Audina's escapades to try and pinpoint where I want to ideally be, and one thing sprung out at me. Lauren's infamous "I want to forgive you... and I want to forget you," "I'll keep my opinions to myself, they just get me in trouble!" quote.

Because, really, that's the stage we're at nowadays. We all have an opinion coupled with varying degrees of outspokenness.

Law wrote a post this week documenting her thoughts on the general population being less opinionated (sans DM readers), feeling like you have to speak a particular voice in order to avoid the trolls and the fear, almost, of something kicking off if you had an opinion that wasn't like everyone else. I'm not going to lie, I'm a pretty mild, laidback kinda gal but one with thoughts, opinions and something to say. I just choose to share them here or, er, with myself. (I'm not crazy, I promise.) But should we be keeping our thoughts to ourselves? When there is so much media available to us for just that - sharing?

We're happy to sift through endless selfies/selcas, aerial shots of mealtime and #OOTD's - I'm very guilty of all of these, despite them all being square shaped reps of over-sharing - but when it comes to truly having a voice about other matters, we're terrified of overstepping the mark.

My advice is not to be afraid of what others may think. Your opinion is important and someone will benefit from it. Whether you quietly gather your thoughts and note them down to yourself, or you write it in 140 characters or less, or use a GIF or meme, or you compile an entire post about them: you really do matter and the "trolls" really don't.

Of course this is all in good fun, so to balance out a more heavy note on the blog, here's an over-sharing of my face and colourful hair in aid of Diabetes UK!
Disclaimer: Not a sponsored post, no sponsored anything 'ere mate.

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  1. Michelle I love you!
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  2. Love this post. I think in terms of keeping things to yourself, it's becoming clear on social media like facebook that people aren't posting about their lives as much, and it's healthier than sharing it out for anyone to see.

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    1. Thanks Emma! I think it's slowly turning back around which is quite cool to see. Not so much over-sharing in my opinion, but rather the subculture that's been created around not voicing your opinion for fear of the trolls.

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  3. I'm so glad there are bloggers like you who are down to earth, bubs. I pride myself on being able to give my own opinion when necessary, and I very rarely censor myself to save face. We would live in a very boring world if we were all diluted.

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    1. Aw Bee. I censor myself where appropriate but always, always try to make my opinions known if needed and if I think it has a place. It'd definitely be a more boring place if our opinions were diluted or mute.

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  4. Ahh I know the episode that's from haha! Takes me back (though I totally still watch re-runs occasionally on TV). Great post Michelle, I actually follow an instagrammer who is really outspoken, hilarious and down to earth. It's so refreshing to read her crazy captions alongside her photos as she's not afraid to share her own voice even if her opinions might spark debate occasionally. I think it's so good to have opinions and to share them from time to time, but the main thing is to respect that everyone is entitled to one and they're not always going to be the same as yours ;) x

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    1. No reality TV will ever come close to The Hills in my opinion ;) haha I follow a few similar accounts, I love reading others' opinions and thoughts about things, whether they're silly mundane things or of more pressing matters - hearing them always helps to inform and shape your own, enriching your knowledge at the same time.

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  5. Ahh the image of that amazingly dramatic black mascara tear running down Lauren's face just came flooding back. I'm very guilty of not sharing any non-vanilla opinions... unless you knew me in real life. I have no qualms about saying whatever I want as long as it's between close friends. Because people *are* so sensitive these days, I can't be bothered with the hassle of offending someone who doesn't know me well. So many times in the past three years of uni I've heard "that's a bit harsh" or "that's so mean" because people down here don't get my sense of humour!! Ideally I'd have a blog where I'd write down everything I thought about the world, but who wants to read that EY!

    Jade | The Jade Aesthetic

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    1. Let's not forget what a darn good episode that was, eh? I'm quite open-minded in knowing that people can be sensitive about particular topics hence reining things in a little, but also knowing and relishing in the idea of free speech. At the end of the day, I know I mean no harm in sharing my thoughts... just putting them out there to free disk space in my brain ;) x

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  6. I am proud that I have to give my own opinion, if necessary, and very rarely censor to protect the face. We live in a very boring world if we were all diluted.

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  7. nothing like a post like this to get me thinking! I find it refreshing to read a thought provoking post rather than something generic, run of the mill, i like being pleasanty surprised and thinking theres more to this person than a pretty picture and well lit photos. I never think too much about negativity, I just go about my merry way, if people don't like it they can unfollow me! I disabled my facebook a few months ago and it was the best thing ive ever did, I catch up with friends other ways and not hit with too much 'over sharing' on my news feed.

    I kind of went of subject there but yes always speak your mind :)

    Hanh x | hanhabelle

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    1. Thanks Hanh! I try to keep things a bit of a mixed bag on Daisybutter because there's plenty more I want to share than just my outfits. I often toy with Facebook, it's such a funny one that platform! x

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